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As humans, we all get angry at one time or another. It doesn’t matter how much deep breathing or how many yoga classes, things are going to get under your skin, but we can all learn how to handle our outbursts better.
Take a timeout
Timeouts aren't just for kids. Sometimes adults can use them too. A few moments of quiet time alone might help you feel better prepared to handle what's ahead without getting too angry.
Choose to forgive
While you may not be able to forget, and probably shouldn't, forgiveness is one of the most powerful antidotes to resentment. Allowing anger and other negative thoughts and feelings to distort and disrupt your life only hurts you, and ultimately leads to more anger and bitterness.
If you can forgive someone who brought on those feelings of anger, you’ll both learn a valuable lesson. For you, you'll realize that no one else can determine your state of mind. For the offender, the tolerance you exhibit might just be enough to bring about true change.
We don't mean throwing a punch - instead, get out that angry energy by getting physically active, such as going for a run or a brisk walk, which can help reduce the stress that caused you to be angry in the first place.
Restructure your thinking
Angry people tend to curse or act erratically when confronted with something that stresses them, but that behavior fuels bitter notions and makes finding a potential solution impossible. Changing the way you think is especially effective, as thought processes are instantly dramatized and exaggerated when we’re angry.
For example, you're waiting in a long line at a coffee shop and the customer at the front is complaining about their order. You instantly start to think how miserable your situation is, and that you're now going to be late for work. But instead of telling yourself how much it sucks to be you, replace that with something like, "This situation is out of my control, but I'll remain calm and before I know it, I'll be on my way."
Making a conscious attempt to rationalize our thoughts is much more likely to bring a positive outcome.